ALL ABOUT LOVE

All About Love

A couple of days back, while blankly staring at the setting sun, I looked around the 2 & half rooms in which I live. On dreary afternoons, the empty rooms look sad and forlorn, just as the setting sun.

It seems to set behind the horizon, almost unnoticed as we look forward to the evening that follows. I once had come across a situation, a million years back, when I had heard someone say : "Being in love hurts".... I agreed. Then I posted the sentence on my Facebook wall, where it seemed to be in the centre of a bleak and barren world.

A friend had quipped : "where does it hurt? Falling in love or out of it?". I had a wry smile when I said that the first time the hurt is when one's falling out of love. And subsequently the hurt is in being in love, and one is scared to fall in love to get hurt once again.

My good friend was as pragmatic as ever as he said," if you are scared, it's not love".

Yes, if one's scared to fall in love, he/she is not meant to be in love. Yes the scare of heartbreaks and breaking hearts make you weary, yet you fall head-on into it.

The hurt is not about broken hearts. When a girl and a boy are in love, it is the greatest feeling in the world. The hurt comes and engulfs & chokes you, when you feel like doing things for the person in love, but feel hopelessly handicapped to do so.

Sometimes the intensity of love, the sincerity of love, and the madness behind the selflessness of love - living for the other, wishing well for the other, being happy by just trying to make the other happy - you want to do it all.

But circumstances - a normal day of a normal life - prevent you to realize the same, and you can't really complain that each day you live is a normal day. A world the passion, the madness, the bouts of desperation, with all its taboos, and an opinion in every possible pie seem to tie you up, to keep you 'normal'.

The reality is : one who is in love, wanting to do crazy things for the other, feels restricted by circumstances - a normal day. Yet the same person might actually be a part of the restraining circumstances for another person in love.

There's nothing Absolute about it. We all keep on changing roles. 

Dr.Anirban Chaudhuri,
Consultant Physician, Mumbai,
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